May 18, 2011


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Biblical Manhood
(Excerpts from the LFL-produced booklet, “Biblical Manhood”, by Dr. Francis Monseth)

 

A Biblical Husband/Father is a leader

There is a story of a man who died and went to heaven. He immediately saw two signs above two different lines. One sign said: “ALL THOSE MEN WHO HAVE BEEN DOMINATED BY THEIR WIVES STAND HERE.” That line of men seemed to stretch off through the clouds into infinity. The second sign read: “ALL THOSE WHO HAVE NEVER BEEN DOMINATED BY THEIR WIVES, STAND HERE.” One man stood underneath that sign. He went over to the man, grabbed his arm and said, “What’s the secret, how did you do it? That other line has millions of men and you are the only one standing in this line.” The man looked around with a puzzled expression and said, “Why, I am not sure I know. My wife just told me to stand here.”
 

We may chuckle at stories like this but leadership in the home is no laughing matter. During the last several decades, our culture has redefined the meaning and responsibilities of men and women in the home. Many men are confused and insecure. Many men do not know how to act in the home. When they were growing up, many men often lacked a good role model for fatherly leadership at home and have, therefore, no mental picture of what it means to lead a family. Consequently, they do not lead effectively or they do not even try.

 

Increasingly, many men are becoming passive in the home. They’ve decided that the easiest thing to do is nothing. The simplest thing―with the smallest risk―is to stay on the fence with both feet firmly planted in mid-air and let the wife do it. When a man is married to a strong wife who will take over, he often lets her do just that. Where can men look for guidance in regard to leading their families? The Bible gives us the help we need presenting the divine model for men in terms of leadership in the home. That model is best described as a “servant-leader.” What is a servant-leader? The following statement by the Apostle Paul is instructive in this regard.


“But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.” (1 Corinthians 11:3)
 

Confusion about the Meaning of Manhood

How can a twenty-first century American male know what manhood really is? On the academic scene, there is a tremendous amount of literature dealing with women’s studies. For example, at four of the University of California’s nine campuses, a person can earn a BA with a major in women’s studies. Yet none of the campuses offer a degree in men’s studies. The university’s inter-campus library computer has almost 15,000 listings under the heading of “women” but only about 800 listing under the heading of “men” (1800 percent more information about women than men!)

 

God doesn’t reveal His will to us without reassuring us of His promise to empower us and enable us to fulfill it. When He mercifully saved us by His grace, He did not leave us to “our own devices” in terms of living the Christian life—indeed, the life of biblical manhood. The reality is that if that were the case, we would never be able to continue in faith, let alone bear fruit for His glory. Our faith could not be sustained and we would quickly die spiritually. How we thank God for the abundant provisions He has made so that we can walk “in newness of life” more and more as “little Christs,” to borrow Luther’s expression! These God-given resources are entrusted to us to empower us and to embolden us to “act like men” (1 Corinthians 16:13), biblical men, all for His glory and for the extension of His Kingdom.
 

To read the full version of Biblical Manhood, click here to order through CPH.


Resources for Father’s Day

June 19th is Father’s Day this year. Although honoring fathers is to be a daily practice, now is a good time to educate our congregations on what God’s Word teaches about the role of a Father. The RFL site has a number of tools you can use.

 

Bible Studies:

  • The Wisdom of Christian Fathers – This Bible study speaks about the challenges facing fathers in today’s world and what God expects from men and their role as husband, father, future husband and father etc. (RFL site in the Family Living/Bible Studies section)

  • The Father Who Speaks – This Bible study focuses on how our heavenly Father speaks through His word to a child, teenager, young man, father, and grandfather. Each has its own section with Bible references and questions. (RFL site in the Family Living/Bible Studies section)

Articles:

  • More Power! – For Men Only – This article touches on the power men have and with that great responsibility. Youth to adults, this article teaches about the value of relationships based on God’s Word. (Sexual Purity/Essays and articles)

  • Biblical Manhood and Womanhood by Linda Bartlett, discusses the different roles God has placed between and man and a woman. (Family Living/Essays and articles)

  • Dad: A Girls first hero – This article focuses on the importance a father has on his daughter and how it can affect her choices in choosing a mate. (Family Living/Essays and articles)

Articles for Fathers touched by Abortion:

 

  • Fathers Still Forgotten by Grace Kerns – “For every woman who participates in an abortion, there is a man. Although men are less likely to seek recovery, they suffer many of the same emotional feelings as women.” (Abortion/Essays and Articles)

  • Fatherhood and Abortion by Dr. Lamb – “There is hope for fathers who were unable to prevent the abortion of their children. Fathers of aborted children have no focus for their grief. There is no body to view, no funeral to attend, and no graveside to visit. Since abortion is a ‘legal right,’ there is not even recognition of a need for fathers to grieve.” (Abortion/Essays and Articles)


LFL Resources for Father’s Day Available Through Concordia Publishing House

 

How You Can “Speak” booklet – over 200 practical ways for you and your congregation to speak up For Life!

 

LFL has two bulletin inserts for Father’s Day―and both are on sale!


Faithful Fathers spotlights the life of Joseph, the importance of fathers in family life, and the faithfulness of our Heavenly Father in helping dads in their vocation.

 

A Father’s Heart – God loves fathers. He is one! He is the Father of Jesus Christ and His love for fathers flows through His Son. Through Jesus, fathers understand they live in grace. “This is where they find the love, motivation, and strength to turn their hearts to their children. This is where they find forgiveness when they fail and the courage they need to try again.”


Ideas on what you can do in your congregation to honor fathers
 

  • Sponsor a Father’s Day breakfast.
  • Make laminated crosses for Father’s Day with pro-life Bible verses on them.
  • Make packets for the “young men” in your congregation with information to guide them to make God-pleasing decisions as they enter the dating world. CPH has a number of materials on sexual purity and biblical manhood.
  • (For more ideas on how you can speak go to the RFL site (Life Advocate Training/ Teaching Tools/ How you can speak)

Here is some good news! The early-bird registration discount for the LFL National Conference has been extended to May 31!

 

National LFL Conference

 

Date: August 5-6, 2011

 

Where: Irving, Texas

 

Theme: Adopted in Christ

 

Scripture: “[W]hen the fullness of time had come, God sent forth his Son, born of woman, born under the law, to redeem those who were under the law, so that we might receive adoption as sons” Galatians 4:4-5 (ESV).

Learn More and Register Online

 

This year’s conference will focus on helping participants grow in their understanding of what it means to be Adopted in Christ and how this action of our heavenly Father affects our relationships with one another and the manner in which we deal with life issues in our congregations.

The keynote speaker is Russell Moore, author of the book Adopted For Life: The Priority of Adoption for Christian Families and Churches. Workshop topics include a panel with a birth mother, adoptive parent, and adopted child and will also cover embryo adoption, foreign adoption, foster care, and pastors and politics.

 

One way to support LFL and help keep conference costs under control is to include a Witness Sponsorship in the conference book―and encourage others to do the same! Check out these links for more info:

 

Download 2011 Witness Book Sponsorship Cover Letter

Download 2011 Witness Book Sponsorship Contract

 

The conference is also a great opportunity for exhibitors. Find out more at this link:

 

Download LFL Conference Exhibitor Information


Life Quotes

 

Life Thoughts

 

Life Quotes and Life Thoughts can also be found on the Home page in the Renewal For Life library.