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From
LifeDate - Spring 2007.
Abortion Under Duress
by Grace Kern, Director
of Word of Hope, 888-217-8679
Since Word of Hope began in 1991, our
hot line (888-217-8679) call volume has steadily increased—up to
well over 3000 abortion related calls a
year. Every day women and men contact us from congregations,
schools, hospitals, prisons, and military bases across the country.
A significant number of our hot line calls are
from young people who have been coerced into abortion. "Tina" called
saying, "I haven’t stopped crying since my abortion, I don’t want to
eat or come out of my room. I wish I was dead. I can’t forgive my
mother for dropping me off at an abortion clinic saying she would
kick me out if I didn’t abort my baby." "Steve" called saying he
forced his wife to get an abortion. "I told her I’d leave if she
didn’t abort, but after the abortion she left me. I don’t understand
what happened. She just wasn’t the same." "Wendy" called saying, "I
don’t trust anyone anymore. All my friends and a few of my teachers
told me I should abort. They all said a baby would ruin my life.
But, the abortion has ruined my life." "Jill" called looking for
help, "My boyfriend got mad when I told him that I was pregnant, he
said he would jump on my stomach until the baby was dead if I didn’t
abort. He said he’d kill me too because he didn’t want his wife to
find out. I had an abortion like he wanted but I haven’t heard from
him since."
Their names have been changed, but their stories
are all real. We often hear these and other similar stories of
coercion on our hot line. Therefore, it is no surprise to me when I
read statistics that say that 64 percent of abortions involve
coercion. Some are violent, even homicidal.
Under Duress . . . "I’ll kill both you and the
baby."
Intense pressure to abort can come from husbands,
counselors, parents, partners, doctors, or others. They may threaten
blackmail or abuse a woman until she agrees to the abortion.
Coercion can escalate to violence. Pregnant women who resist
abortion have been beaten and killed.
Reasons women give for having abortions:
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Forced by mother
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Husband or boyfriend persuaded me
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Would have been kicked out
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Lack of support from society
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Father opposed
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Loss of family’s support
In 95 percent of all cases, the male partner
played a central role in the decision and 64 percent felt pressured
by others.
Up to 83 percent would have given birth if they’d
had support from family and friends.
Uninformed Choice . . . "When I learned the truth I can’t tell you
how betrayed I felt."
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67 percent received no counseling
beforehand
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84 percent received inadequate
counseling beforehand
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79 percent not counseled about
alternatives
Word of Hope recognizes the serious effects of
these forced and uninformed choices, and is there to offer help and
healing to those who come to our ministry beaten, abused, and
hopeless.
How Do We help?
At Word of Hope we offer spiritual care, Bible
studies, and recovery groups because with the love of Christ there
is hope. We offer healing and reconciliation through God’s Word. Our
message is simple and biblical: Word of Hope seeks to carry on the
healing ministry of Jesus Christ to the broken hearted. For the
women, men, and families who have been wounded by abortion there is
a Word of Hope, words of healing, and words of help. It is our
prayer that those who suffer may, "with all of God’s people, be
able to understand how wide and long and high and deep is the love
of Christ" (Ephesians 3:18). Because of Christ there is hope.
How Can You Help?
There are many people hurting all around you,
silently suffering from abuse and abortion. Many don’t know that we
are here to help. You can help by building awareness of our ministry
in your church. Put information in your church bulletin and place
our brochures where they can be picked up.
For more information, copies of our brochures, or
if you need to take the first step to recovery, please call our
office toll-free at 888-217-8679.
(Statistics
from "Forced Abortion in America" at
www.unchoice.info/resources.htm.) |